Here’s What Older Generations Don’t Understand About Millennials

Millennials are defined by Strauss and Howe (Millennials Rising: The Next Great Generationas those born between 1982 and 2004. There’s something separatist sounding about the name itself, and millennials seem a little bit misunderstood. Here are some common criticisms that have been leveled at millennials, and what the real situation is.

“They Are Self Absorbed”

Yes, they might be a little too fond of selfies, and are always to be found in group photos, hugging, laughing and smiling at each other. They appear to be happy within their own tribe. Unlike some previous generations, millennials actually like each other, and themselves. They weren’t raised in an era of self-deprivation or self-blame, and so it’s true that they do feel more satisfied with themselves. Other generations may have been self-absorbed, like the Yuppies, but the Yuppies lived in an age of economic success, whereas it can feel a little hard to take the happy smiling faces of millennials when the economy is still so low. Chances are, if everyone was happy, no would mind the smiling faces of millennials on social media.

“They Don’t Respect Privacy”

The millennials have been charged with not respecting privacy, especially since every conversation online is like a group chat. They post private pictures and share everything about their private lives. But that’s partly because they embrace the group input, and feel that every opinion matters. If there was ever a generation that believes in “the more the merrier,” it’s millennials. They basically invented the concept of the “crowd.” Since they like each other so much, they figured out early on that many hands (and heads) make light work. Now we have a whole host of companies dedicated to taking advantage of many sources of thought, skill and labor from around the globe. We have crowd funding, crowd tasking and crowd ideas that are used to create cohesive wholes. If you really, really like to work in groups, the millennials have a spot for you.

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It’s Not Him, It’s You

Do your relationships always seem to end for inexplicable reasons? Are you constantly lamenting the lack of good men out there? It might not be him, after all. Here are some possible reasons why your relationship isn’t working.

You Choose Poorly

Remember that Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade movie when the knight tells the bad guy “you chose poorly” after he picks the incorrect Holy Grail? That might be you.

Do you find yourself attracted to inappropriate men? Maybe they’re decades younger or older than you. Maybe they are unemployed drifters (albeit with irresistible looks and charm). Or maybe they have a completely different value system than you do. (They are at home on Wall Street & you’re still hoping Greenpeace will approve your application so you can help save dolphins.)

If you’re always with the wrong guy, your relationship will always fail. If this describes you, it couldn’t hurt to do some introspection to figure out why you’re self-sabotaging your relationships.

You’re a Control Freak

You know who was a control freak? Joan Crawford. So much so that her own daughter wrote a tell-all book that became the hit movie, “Mommie Dearest.” Now, is that what you want to happen in your life?

Does your boyfriend annoy you when he doesn’t tell you where he is all the time? Do you believe there’s a right way to live life (your way) and a wrong way to do things? Do you find yourself correcting his grammar and giving him a list of what not to say in front of your family or friends? Then you, my dearest, should look in the mirror and see if you’re ready for your close up.

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3 Pieces Of Advice for Couples In Long Distance Relationships

When we meet someone with whom we feel a connection, we’re willing to do whatever it takes to continue the relationship, even though it may not be practical in geographical terms. That’s often how and why we get involved in a long distance relationship.

It’s true, a long distance relationship can be more challenging. Even if the long distance relationship is perfect for you, it will still require more creativity and work than a regular relationship. Here are some ways to keep a long distance relationship thriving.

Be Flexible

Just as you have a busy life filled with many things that don’t have to do with your long distance flame, your partner has a busy life, too. That doesn’t mean they’ll be up to no good since you won’t know the difference. It just means they lead an active life, which you should want for them if you really care about them. After all, you probably wouldn’t be interested in them as much if they were a homebody with no side interests or hobbies, right? You fell in love with a 3-dimensional person with friends and outside interests. Now that you’re in a relationship with them, don’t try to quash that side of your paramour.

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3 Pieces Of Advice for Couples In Long Distance Relationships

When we meet someone with whom we feel a connection, we’re willing to do whatever it takes to continue the relationship, even though it may not be practical in geographical terms. That’s often how and why we get involved in a long distance relationship.

It’s true, a long distance relationship can be more challenging. Even if the long distance relationship is perfect for you, it will still require more creativity and work than a regular relationship. Here are some ways to keep a long distance relationship thriving.

Be Flexible

Just as you have a busy life filled with many things that don’t have to do with your long distance flame, your partner has a busy life, too. That doesn’t mean they’ll be up to no good since you won’t know the difference. It just means they lead an active life, which you should want for them if you really care about them. After all, you probably wouldn’t be interested in them as much if they were a homebody with no side interests or hobbies, right? You fell in love with a 3-dimensional person with friends and outside interests. Now that you’re in a relationship with them, don’t try to quash that side of your paramour.

Be flexible if your lover has to cancel or reschedule your telephone call or Skype session. Don’t try to fence in your long distance lover with a rigid schedule that ultimately will be impossible to keep. They don’t have 100% control over their schedule—just as you don’t over yours. Maybe their league soccer game ran late, or their boss made them stay late to finish a project. Maybe one of their friends had a tough day and needed a late night gab. Whatever the reason, just be flexible and go with the flow. They’ll appreciate your understanding and won’t get that terrible relationship-killing feeling where someone is trying to control them.

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How To Look Great In Pictures When You’re Not Naturally Photogenic

The quality of being naturally photogenic is elusive. What makes a person photogenic? You’ll get a different answer depending on whom you ask. If you feel you aren’t one of those naturally photogenic people who seem to look good in every photo, use the following tips. You might start to seek out opportunities to be photographed instead of hiding whenever you see spy a camera lens.

Face the Light

The person taking the photo should always be standing with their back to the light. That means you need to be facing the light. You can position yourself so that something—a tree branch, the shingle of a house—is blocking the sun just enough so you don’t end up completely closing your eyes.

 

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Simple Ways To Take Part In Random Acts of Kindness Day Without Going Out Of Your Way

Random Acts of Kindness Day is intended as a way for people to do something nice for others even if they have no reason to do so, and especially if nothing is expected in return. Some people don’t participate in this day because they feel they don’t have the time or resources to help anyone else out. But a random act of kindness can be surprisingly easy to do, no matter where you are or what you’re doing.

RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS IN THE CAR

Nothing is simpler than performing a random act of kindness while you’re seated comfortably in your car, going where you want to go. Try one of these:

When you’re in line to pay your road toll, give the toll booth operator an extra few quarters to pay for whomever comes up next behind you. Toll booth operators are always happy to facilitate, and witnessing this simple random act of kindness makes their day a little brighter, too.

You’re in a long line of heavy traffic, and no one will let this one car into the lane from the driveway they’re exiting. Why not hang back and wave them in front of you? It won’t impact your time in the car, but it will help the other driver get on their way a little bit faster.

RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS AT THE GROCERY STORE

The supermarket is filled with strangers, so it’s the perfect place to test out your superpowers for performing random acts of kindness.

As you exit your vehicle on a windy day, you notice that a shopping cart is rolling ominously toward a car in the next lane. Why not hurry on over and stop it before it dents a stranger’s vehicle?

 

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Figuring Out Where You Want To Live Is No Easy Task

Over 3.7 million American employees work from home at least half the time, according to Global Workplace Analytics. This number is expected to exponentially increase as companies sprint to revamp their workspaces to accommodate employees who already exhibit work mobility capability. Technology has played a huge part in making it possible for employees to work remotely. Both hardware devices and online collaborative software has enabled the hardworking absentee employee.

If you’re one of the lucky ones who can essentially work from anywhere in the world with an Internet connection, you may be living a nomadic lifestyle. This affords you a previously unheard of opportunity to travel the world while earning money. You might even have developed a touch of wanderlust, the desire to pack up and move on whenever the urge strikes.

At some point, however, most people get the desire to settle down. Whether it’s to grow some roots or to start a family, deciding where to settle down in one area isn’t an easy choice. It is one that you’ll need to make based on your own preferences and personal situation, but there are some effective ways to figuring out where you want to live. Ask yourself these telling questions.

ARE YOU AN INDOOR PERSON OR AN OUTDOOR PERSON?

When a realtor shows you a home, do you march straight out the back door to see what the outdoor space is like before even glancing at the indoor space? Do you need lots of windows and natural light any place you live? Would you rather work on a park bench than at a mahogany desk?

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4 Great Reasons to Skip Valentine’s Day

Are you looking for genuine love in a committed relationship? Then you might want to skip the whole Valentine’s Day tradition. Here are four great reasons why.

1. Why Should the Celebration of Love be Restricted to a Single Day?

Love is such a substantive and weighty sentiment that it seems wrong to trivialize it by honoring it for just one day. If you value the idea of abiding love that lasts through decades, and gets couples through the worst and best times of their lives, don’t you agree that any faithful celebration of love should last more than 24 hours? We’re talking about love; a life-altering human emotion that inspires people to sacrifice, move mountains, and perform acts of blind passion. People die for love, for heaven’s sake. One day can’t do that justice.

2. There Are Other Days When You Need it More

If you’re like most women—and there’s no reason to think you’re not—you experience many days where you feel unlovable, incapable, lost, inferior, or just a little bit blue.

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Things Your Mother Shouldn’t Have Told You (Plus One She Should Have And Didn’t)

Is your mom full of little tidbits that may or may not apply to your life as your know it? Some of this advice should be relegated to the history museums. See if any of these phrases sound familiar.

OBEY YOUR HUSBAND

You should obey the traffic rules, the tax law and the rules of your employer. But your lifelong, equal partner in marriage? Not unless you don’t consider yourself an intelligent adult capable of making your own decisions. This is one piece of advice that you can safely ignore.

NEVER WEAR WHITE AFTER LABOR DAY

In the past, people were judged on their class by their knowledge of and adherence to, certain fashion dictates. One of them was not wearing white clothing after Labor Day. Nowadays, society really couldn’t care less if you choose to rock your white capris after the first Monday in September. I think they’d much rather enforce a rule that would make guys pull their pants up so we can’t see their underwear.

THE WAY TO A MAN’S HEART IS THROUGH HIS STOMACH

Well, if you ever got a chance to cook for a guy and he appreciates good food, that advice may work a little. But for those of us in the technology age who rely on Internet dating, it’s much easier to get a guy’s attention if you look nice. And if you want to reach his heart over the long term, take care of yourself physically and emotionally, and be a loving partner. He can always dial for take-out.

FEIGN AN INTEREST IN HIS HOBBIES

This is bad advice on so many levels. First, if you’re feigning an interest in his hobbies, your man’s not going to get to know the real you. That’s not fair to him. Second, with this advice, you don’t even get to be your true self, and that’s completely unfair to you. Just be yourself, and the right guy will be naturally attracted to you for all the best reasons. Because he likes you for you. Not some fake version you’re pretending to be.

 

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3 DIY Beauty Treatments to Try Tonight

Do you own a blender? If not, you will want to consider getting one after you read through these cool beauty treatments you can blend up right in your own kitchen. What are you waiting for? Let’s get blending!

AVOCADO AND HONEY FACIAL MASK

This mask may help to restore collagen to your skin, smoothing out fine wrinkles and bringing out your own natural rosy glow. After it dries, rinse off with cool, clear water and pat dry.

Ingredients:

  • 1 avocado (for its antioxidant properties)
  • 2 tablespoons of Greek yogurt (for its alpha hydroxyl acid ingredients)
  • 2 tablespoons of oats (for its calming properties to soothe skin irritation)
  • 1 tablespoon of honey (for its antibacterial properties)
  • 1 tablespoon of dried mint (for its rejuvenating properties)

Blend until smooth and creamy. Store any leftover in a sealed jar in the refrigerator.

Note: If you have a mint teabag, just empty the contents of one bag into the blender.

LAVENDER CLAY FACIAL MASK

This is a great mask to try if you battle with occasional skin breakouts. Try to find organic lavender essential oil, which you can find online or in organic food stores.

 

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