TV Show Moms That Make Us Feel Better About Ourselves

Some TV moms just have a way of making us feel better about our own parenting skills. On the surface, the following TV show moms are shining examples of how to show affection to a child. Underneath, there’s a lot to love about a mom that makes us look good.

The Middle

Patricia Heaton does an awesome job of portraying Frankie Heck, mother of three kids on “The Middle.” There’s something about her that almost all moms across the country can relate to. Going to a job she hates, being misunderstood by her family and dealing with challenging kids. Yup, you can smile with understanding as she comes home and flops on the couch with a beer. But dinnertime at the Heck’s? Now that’s another story.

How can a mother who claims to love her children throw down a few bags of take out burgers and fries almost every night and call it a meal? I mean, sure, you’ve been known to pass around the local Chinese takeout menu to get everyone’s orders. Chinese food has vegetables. Fast food joints don’t. Besides, you can’t cook Chinese. Or pizza. Or Indian food. So it’s actually a treat for the kids when you order out. You’re not like Frankie at all. Nope.

Madam Secretary

As Madam Secretary, Téa Leoni tries to show us how awesome she is as a professional working woman, wife and mother. Wow. What an inspiration. Plus, she apparently has a smoking hot love life with her husband, played by Tim Daly (off-screen as well, but that’s gossip for another day). I mean, what woman wouldn’t want to be as good a mother as Elizabeth McCord, Secretary to the President of the United States? How does she do it all?

Well, she doesn’t. Not really. Take a closer look and it’s hard to find a mother less tuned in to what’s going on with her kids. She had no idea that her daughter, “Noodle,” was into fashion, no clue that her youngest son Jason hadn’t made any friends at his new school, and absolutely no notion that her oldest was sleeping with a heroin addict. (And, he is the President’s son, no less!). Honestly, if you were those kids’ mother, you would make it your business to know what they were up to every minute of the day. As Madame Secretary, wouldn’t it be within your rights to have your kids’ every action monitored? You bet it would! You are SUCH a better mother than her! Wait a minute. It’s almost midnight! Where’s your daughter? Her curfew is 10:00!

Modern Family

Gloria has one child to rear, and she does it with style. Sofia Vergara plays the doting mother so well, and her son Manny, played by Rico Rodriguez, is all the better for it. He’s a well-mannered, sophisticated young man who reflects positively on his upbringing. Even though Gloria spent years raising Manny as a single mother after her divorce, their relationship is perfect.

A little too perfect, if you ask her new husband, Jay, portrayed by Ed O’Neill. Jay sees what you see. A little fancy pants boy who is doesn’t want to let go of his mother’s apron strings. On the other end of those strings is an overprotective mother who has trouble letting her baby grow up. You’re not like that, though. You can see the error in preventing anything bad from happening to your kids. You know that Manny will always need approval from his mother, and that his future romantic relationships may suffer because of it. That’s why you always tell your son he can date whomever he chooses. As long as she’s a good girl. With no piercings. And she should be the same religious faith, obviously. That’s just a given.

Downton Abbey

Downton Abbey has given us six glorious years of entertainment, so they are hereby relieved of any scathing remarks about Lady Edith’s reluctance to acknowledge her own child to save her own reputation, or Lady Mary’s curious lack of motherly bragging about her amazingly adorable and handsome son George. Suffice it to say, it’s hard to understand the mother-child relationship of the olden days. The only one that makes sense on the show is the one between The Dowager Countess and Lord Grantham. The way he still comes to his wise old mother for advice; the way she still tells him what to do and how to behave. Now that’s the way it should be!

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What Your Choice of Shoes Says About You

Are your kitten heels worn thin, while your tennis shoes are still lily white? Do you come to a standstill at the sight of a sturdy pair of Tevas? Your shoes say a lot about you. From the way you think, to your lifestyle, and even how you think about yourself. Here’s a guide to what your shoes say about you.

You Own One Pair For Every Occasion

Does your closet look like this: one pair of pumps for work and formal dinners, one pair of sneakers, one pair of sandals/flip flops, and one pair of house slippers?

If so, you’re probably not a shoe person at all. You wear shoes because you have to, not because you want to. Chances are, you wear a pair of shoes until the sole falls off before you buy another one. That’s okay. More shoes for the rest of us!

You Have Multiple Pairs of Sandals

First of all, if you have several pairs of sandals, congratulations! You must live in a warm climate where sandals are an everyday affair. You probably get regular pedicures, and you may even sport a toe ring or two. Sandals have gotten pretty swanky since the days of foam flip flops, so your sandal collection should get you from beach to shopping mall in style.

You Don’t Own High Heels

A lot of us consider high heels a particular kind of feminine torture, so no judgment here. If you don’t own high heels, you are either taller than your husband, incredibly practical and busy, or simply refuse to endure the pain that high heels incur just for the sake of fashion. Either way, kudos to you.

Your Shoes Wear Bling

Do you need to wear sunglasses when you open your shoe closet? Do you have a shoe closet? If sparkle is a requirement for you to purchase shoes, that says a lot about you.

Chances are, you are a woman who enjoys the nightlife. You can be found any night of the week dancing away in the arms of some handsome paramour. Maybe you even lead a jetsetter lifestyle. Nice!

You Prefer Platforms

If platforms are your preferred choice when it comes to footwear, it could be that you are, ahem, height challenged. Maybe? Just a little bit? It’s okay. We all know that tall people have the advantage in a lot of areas. Why should they have all the fun?

You Keep Buying Tevas

Tevas are arguably the best outdoor sandal made for active people. But the thing is, they are also one of the most rugged pieces of footwear available for outdoor enthusiasts. One pair can last a normal person a year or more. So if you keep buying them, we’re going to assume you’re wearing them out. Which is really hard to do. You must spend all your time having sporty adventures, like swinging from zip lines! (We’re a little bit jealous of you now, FYI.)

Next time you want to find out more about a new friend, check out her shoe closet. Shoes provide valuable insight into personality and interests. Just ask Teva lady.

 

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2 Super Easy Ways to Get a Base Tan

Getting a base tan is essential for certain situations. Maybe you’ve been invited to join your boyfriend’s family on their boat in the Bahamas. Or, you’re going down to Florida to visit Disney World. Maybe it’s just that upcoming 4th of July BBQ. Whatever the occasion, you don’t want to show up with your lily white legs while the rest of the girls show off their golden tans. Here are two easy ways to get a base tan.

Method #1: Fake It

Since the dawn of time, women have been faking beauty features they lacked for one reason or another. During WWII, when silk was hoarded for making paratrooper parachutes, women found their lingerie drawers woefully lacking in silk stocking. Not to be caught out walking around barelegged, clever women of the time simply sued an eyeliner pencil to draw that telltale line that simulated a silk stocking seam up the backs of their legs. The effect was surprisingly realistic.

Which brings us to method number one of achieving a base tan. There are lots of great fake tanners on the market, so there’s no reason to resort to those orangey self-tanning lotions that you might have tried in high school.

Here are two of our favorites:

Art Naturals Sunless Tanning Lotion works for light, fair, medium and sensitive skin. It contains jojoba oil, so it moisturizes while it’s making your skin look tanned. You get an instant tint to your skin without the sun, and you can build it up to look darker with each application. I like that the packaging is BPA and paraben-free, and that the kit comes with an application mitt.

Beauty by Earth Self Tanner is an organic, natural sunless tanning lotion that works within 4-6 hours to give your skin a sun-kissed natural glow. Works on skin tones from light to medium and is okay for use on sensitive skin. I like it because the ingredients are all organic, including coconut oil, argan oil and aloe vera. Its non-streaking formulation works to give you a fake base tan for between four and seven days.

Method #2: Build It

You can build a real base tan if you have enough sunny day with which to work your tanning magic. Seven sunny days should be long enough to implement this build-it method. Remember, the goal is to build a healthy base tan without burning or otherwise damaging your gorgeous skin.

First, arm yourself with a 6-day, descending supply of sunblock. On day one, use the sunscreen with the highest SPF. On day two, use the next lowest SPF, on day three, the next lowest, etc. On the last day, which will be day seven, switch to a Hawaiian Tropic sun oil that contains all natural oils but no sunscreen. By the end of day seven, even the fairest in all the land (you!) will have achieved a base tan you can be proud to show off in shorts and a sleeveless top.

You may notice that I’ve left out the option of tanning beds in this list. The reason is that the CDC has specifically called out tanning beds as potentially more dangerous than outdoor tanning. Because tanning beds operate on a timer, and users normally stay in the tanning bed until the timer goes off, the odds are greater that a burn will develop. Outdoors, you can regulate your skin exposure, but inside a tanning bed, it’s much more difficult to do so, if not impossible. I recommend one of the above methods instead of resorting to a tanning bed. Whichever of those two methods you use, you will be occasion-ready with glowing, tanned skin that everyone will envy!

How Geeky Became the New Sexy (And the Women We Can Thank For It)

Gone are the days of the stereotypical male geek with masking taped eyeglasses and ill-fitting plaid shirts. These days, geeky is the new sexy, and we have some very gorgeous and smart women to thank for it.

Elizabeth Holmes

When Elizabeth Holmes was a young girl, she exhibited signs of brilliance early on. Whereas many kids fall behind when their families move around a lot, Elizabeth seemed to thrive on experiencing different cultures in places like China, Texas, and Washington D.C. She followed in her ancestor’s footsteps and studied medicine and engineering at Stamford University, where she discovered her fear of needles.

Elizabeth Holmes went on to invent a new test that uses a few drops of blood from a finger prick instead of a needle injection to diagnose certain diseases. Ms. Holmes has altered the way we look at geeks, and we’re thankful for it.

Amal Clooney

When you think of a barrister, you probably picture an old man in a white wig shedding dust in a dark courtroom in London. What you can picture now, thanks to Amal Clooney, is a strong, beautiful woman who rules the London legal scene with just a hint of leg showing. Amal Clooney is a lawyer, activist and author who just happens to be married to the most handsome leading man in Hollywood, George Clooney. Amal is just as likely to be found listening to a litany of human rights violations as she is sipping champagne at a movie premiere in La-La Land. If this is what it means to be a geek now, sign me up.

Angela Ahrendts

With piercing blue eyes and silky ash blonde hair, Angela Ahrendts could be a model. But the only runway you’ll find her walking is the corridor of the Apple computer company. Ms. Ahrendts is Senior VP of the Retail and Online Stores of Apple. How did she get there? It wasn’t her looks, although she could have cashed in on those had she wanted to. She worked her way up through the ranks from ordinary Ball State University in Indiana, where she obtained her Marketing and Merchandising degree. She parlayed that into a position with Donna Karan, then Liz Claiborne and then Burberry, before bringing her savvy and beauty to the doors of Apple. It makes sense that someone as chic and elegant as Angela Ahrendts would represent a company as chic and elegant as Apple.

To all the women out there who used to feel that you had to hide your intellect behind a sexy façade, now you can have both. Make a statement like these amazingly intelligent women who have turned geeky into the new sexy.

How to Know When You Need a Career Switch

When you’ve worked hard to get where you are in your career, it can be difficult to even consider the notion that your career, well, sucks. At least for you, maybe this particular line of work isn’t the best. If you find yourself in agreement with the following statements, you might be ready for a career switch.

  • You didn’t choose your career – your parents did.
  • You do it for the money.
  • You fell into this career.
  • You hate the way you have to dress for work (uniform, office attire, etc.).
  • You compromise your values everyday at work.
  • You watch the clock all day, every day.
  • You generally hate what you do.
  • You are starting to get physical symptoms from the constant pressure.
  • You feel like you have no integrity left.
  • You see corruption everywhere in the industry.

How to Reconcile Switching Careers

Whether you’re a lawyer, a physician or a paralegal, building a career is an expensive, time-consuming process. It would be foolhardy and immature to just throw all that money and hard work away just because you don’t like your career, right?

Wrong!

It would actually be foolhardy to continue to go on in a career that is making you unhappy. Unless you have some secret to living forever, your time is limited just like the rest of us. As the saying goes, “Don’t throw good money after bad,” don’t throw good time after bad. Start the rest of your life anew, and start today. If you built up a good career once, you can do it again.

Steps to Building a New Career

First, don’t quit your day job just yet. Give some thought to what career you wish you had gotten into. Maybe that other career will require additional education or certification. Go ahead and get started on that while you remain gainfully employed in your current career. When you leave, you want to ensure a seamless transition into the new career.

Second, when considering the new career, think about going into something that will utilize your existing experience and credentials. For instance, maybe you hate being a criminal lawyer. You could become a contract lawyer or a family counselor. If you’re a dental hygienist, you could work in animal dentistry, or overseas helping in the Doctors Without Borders program. If you can land on a career that utilizes existing expertise, you won’t feel you “wasted” anything.

Going 180

Are you completely tired of everything to do with your career? Looking for something completely opposite of what you currently do? Then it helps to find a mentor in that other career field who can advise you on the steps you need to take to get into it. Lay out a map to get from here to there. It will make the transition much easier, especially if you don’t know too much about how to get into the new career.

Switching careers won’t be easy, but it’s a whole lot easier than living out your live doing something that is making you miserable. Don’t do anything rash, and move slowly. You don’t need to jeopardize your livelihood in order to build a new career. Soon enough, you’ll be on your way on a new path in life that you can be proud of.

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7 Things a Woman in Her 30s Should Have By Now

There are certain milestones in life where you can reasonably expect to have attained a level of achievement. By 19, you should have graduated from high school, and by 25 you should have figured out a career path that you’re (hopefully) already on. And, by the time you’re a woman in her 30s, there are come things that you should have by now.

A Reliable Car

The days of owning a used car that can only be relied upon to break down when you need it most? They should be long gone. As enjoyable as it was to watch your hot and dirty high school boyfriend bent over your car’s engine as he pretended to know how to change the spark plugs, it’s time to move on. By now you should either have a car that you bought new and are making payments on, or one that you already paid off. Oh, and you should also have a nice insurance policy on that car, even if you live in an insurance-optional state such as New Hampshire.

A Quality Mattress

Yes, futons were very trendy for a time, and waterbeds were an even bigger statement-maker. But let’s face it, it’s time you slept on a quality mattress. By now, you should be lounging around on a mattress you bought yourself, not your grandmother’s hand-me-down that’s not even a Queen size, it’s a full. For one thing, you deserve it after working as hard as you do, and for a second thing, your body needs it. No more sagging, springy mattresses for you. These days, you’ve got your pick of innovative mattress designs that your grandmother could never have imagined.

A Tool Box

As an independent woman in her 30s, you’d better have a fully-outfitted tool box on hand. You can’t expect to claim independence and still be calling up your best male friend every time you drop your earring in the kitchen sink. Get a pink tool box if you must, but get one today if you don’t already own one.

A Crock Pot

As a working woman, you might not relish the thought of cooking homemade every night when you get home. With a crock pot, you don’t need to, either. Make sure you get a crockpot with a good timer on it that allows you to set it and forget it. Better yet, make sure it has an automatic off switch for those times when drinks after work turn into sneaking back home at 6 a.m.

A Kickass Hair/Face Mask

Let’s face it. You’ve spent enough time and money testing out hair and facial masks over the years to know which ones work and which ones leave your hair and skin looking stringy and sparse. You should have go-to hair and face masks from a brand you trust.

A Favorite Makeup Brand

Finally, you don’t have to wear your mom’s brand of makeup just because your allowance doesn’t provide enough to go out and buy your own. You should be buying your makeup from a cosmetic counter, too, not the local drugstore or a 24-hour shop.

A Signature Scent

By the time you’re in your 30s, you should have landed on a signature scent. It should be something that makes you feel womanly and strong. Something that others know you by, and something that’s not for sale at Walmart.

So now you have it. Beyond the little black dress, these are the essentials of being an accomplished woman in her 30s. Are you missing one or more of these items? Your life choices may be different, but they shouldn’t be too far off. As a mature and responsible woman, it’s not too much to ask that you have a safe car, along with some of the other niceties of life. You know you deserve them, and so do we.

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How to Prepare For a First Date in Your 30s

If you find yourself still dating in your 30s, take heart. There’s a lot to be said for a first date when you’re old enough not to race out the door for a guy who’s sitting in his car at the curb beeping his horn. Now that you’re older and wiser, here are some tips on how to prepare for a first date in your 30s because, after all, you still might be a teensy bit nervous about going out with a stranger.

Do Your Due Diligence

Look, it’s 2017. There’s no harm in checking up on this person just a little bit before you let him drive you off to who knows where in his car. You don’t need to spend $30 for one of those online background checks—in fact, that would be a little creepy at this stage in your relationship. But a little peek at his social profile can’t hurt. At least you can find out if he routinely posts any randomly violent remarks or seems to be a subversive social deviant who is looking to recruit unknowing women (you) into his quasi-cult. In your 30s, you don’t have your parents making sure you don’t hang with bad people, so it’s all up to you.

Bring Protection

What you do on your first date is up to you and the other consenting adult. But many adults are a lot more sexually free than they were in their teens. After all, you don’t have a high school or college reputation to protect. Since sex is a definitely a possibility between two adults in their 30s, it behooves you to bring along a little protection in that department. You don’t have to use it, but if the need arises spontaneously, you’ll be all set to be in control of what happens in your body.

Tell a Friend

Do you live alone? If so, no one will know if you come home tonight or never. Not to be a worry wart, but go ahead and tell someone—a friend, a co-worker, or a trusted neighbor, that you’re going out on a first date with someone you don’t yet know very well. It’s a good idea to tell someone what your plans are, as far as you know. If you run into trouble, at least you’ll know someone will come looking for you.

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4 Surprising Things That Are Hurting Your Skin

Are your bathroom cabinets filled with products to fix pesky breakouts? It turns out you might be able to prevent breakouts and aging skin without resorting to chemical solutions. You might be surprised to learn about these four things that are hurting your skin every single day.

RED WINE

You’ve probably heard a lot about the benefits of red wine. Red wine contains resveratrol, which is an antioxidant that offers powerful anti-inflammatory benefits. It’s highly soluble in alcohol, which is why drinking red wine is an effective and enjoyable way to get that goodness inside.

However, red wine is high in sugar and alcohol, which are actually hurting your skin. The sugar molecules in red wine attach themselves to proteins in your body, which then creates “advanced glycation end-products.” These nasty little buggers get in the way of elastin and collagen production. In the end, drinking too much red wine will lead to sagging skin and those dreaded jowls. As far as getting enough resveratrol, you can also find it in healthier options, such as peanuts.

YOUR PHONE

Can you hear me now? Talking on your phone is actually hurting your skin on your chin and cheeks. Your cellphone harbors more bacteria than a toilet seat. The reasons are pretty obvious after you think about it. Cellphones rarely get cleaned, and your hands are on your phone all the time. So everything you touch winds up on your phone. When you hold your phone up to your ear to hear, it touches your chin or cheek. That bacteria then gets transferred to your face, causing breakouts. If you think about where your breakouts frequently occur, your chin is probably top on your list, and the likely culprit is your phone. You can help avoid the whole thing by cleaning your phone more often, and keeping it at a distance when you’re on the phone.

YOUR SUNGLASSES

If you think about when you wear your sunglasses – on hot, sunny days – you might have already figured out why sunglasses are hurting your skin. They sit on the bridge of your nose, and underneath those nose pads, your skin is warm and sweaty, and your pores are opened. The bottoms of the eyeglass frame sometimes hit the tops of your cheeks, too. If you don’t make a practice of regularly cleaning your sunglasses, bacteria comes into contact with your skin, causing acne. Wiping the lenses on your sunglasses won’t prevent this. You have to wash the entire frame. An easy way is to simply dip your sunglasses into hot, soapy water and dry with a lint-free cloth. Ditto with regular eyeglasses.

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8 Things to Stop Telling Yourself

 

You know that inner voice you have inside your head? A lot of times that voice doesn’t say the right things to help us feel better. Instead, it kind does the opposite. It’s time to take control of and stop telling yourself these things:

  1. You’re not good enough.

This is just a blatant untruth that will sabotage any effort you make at anything. There’s no measuring stick in the world that determines if a person is or isn’t good enough, so stop inventing one in your imagination.

  1. You need to lose 10 pounds.

Seriously? After that it will be another five pounds, and then just one more pound before you can call yourself perfect. Does that sound familiar? Stop telling yourself you need to lose weight and you might discover that you’re already at your ideal weight.

  1. Your sister is prettier than you.

Or your best friend, or his ex. Comparing yourself to others just isn’t fair to you. Everyone is pretty or handsome in their own way, and you’re just as pretty in your own way, so stop telling yourself you’re not.

  1. Your nose is too big.

Or your ass is too small, or your legs are too short. Unless people are pointing and staring, you’re good. We all have features we don’t like, but most of the time, they go unnoticed by others.

  1. You’re better than everybody else.

Okay, so you’ve got an ego. That’s okay. An ego protects you from a lot of things in life. But a big, fat, inflated ego is a turn off to friends, family and lovers, so stop telling yourself you’re better and try to see what you have in common with the rest of humanity instead.

  1. You don’t need people.

If you’ve been hurt or feel betrayed, you may feel like you’d rather just avoid the whole broken heart thing and become a hermit. After a while, though, the tub of ice cream runs out, while a good friend never will. Stop telling yourself you don’t need friends, grab a tissue, and call your mother.

  1. You deserve the abuse.

Trust us. People who love you, don’t hurt you – at least not on purpose. You don’t deserve to be abused, either emotionally or physically. If you’re in an abusive relationship, leave now. Seriously. Grab the keys, the kids, your wallet, and go. You can figure out the rest later.

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How Geeky Became the New Sexy (and the women we can thank for it)

Gone are the days of the stereotypical male geek with masking taped eyeglasses and ill-fitting plaid shirts. These days, geeky is the new sexy, and we have some very gorgeous and smart women to thank for it.

ELIZABETH HOLMES

When Elizabeth Holmes was a young girl, she exhibited signs of brilliance early on. Whereas many kids fall behind when their families move around a lot, Elizabeth seemed to thrive on experiencing different cultures in places like China, Texas, and Washington D.C. She followed in her ancestor’s footsteps and studied medicine and engineering at Stamford University, where she discovered her fear of needles.

Elizabeth Holmes went on to invent a new test that uses a few drops of blood from a finger prick instead of a needle injection to diagnose certain diseases. Ms. Holmes has altered the way we look at geeks, and we’re thankful for it.

AMAL CLOONEY

When you think of a barrister, you probably picture an old man in a white wig shedding dust in a dark courtroom in London. What you can picture now, thanks to Amal Clooney, is a strong, beautiful woman who rules the London legal scene with just a hint of leg showing. Amal Clooney is a lawyer, activist and author who just happens to be married to the most handsome leading man in Hollywood, George Clooney. Amal is just as likely to be found listening to a litany of human rights violations as she is sipping champagne at a movie premiere in La-La Land. If this is what it means to be a geek now, sign me up.

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