You know that inner voice you have inside your head? A lot of times that voice doesn’t say the right things to help us feel better. Instead, it kind does the opposite. It’s time to take control of and stop telling yourself these things:
You’re not good enough.
This is just a blatant untruth that will sabotage any effort you make at anything. There’s no measuring stick in the world that determines if a person is or isn’t good enough, so stop inventing one in your imagination.
You need to lose 10 pounds.
Seriously? After that it will be another five pounds, and then just one more pound before you can call yourself perfect. Does that sound familiar? Stop telling yourself you need to lose weight and you might discover that you’re already at your ideal weight.
Your sister is prettier than you.
Or your best friend, or his ex. Comparing yourself to others just isn’t fair to you. Everyone is pretty or handsome in their own way, and you’re just as pretty in your own way, so stop telling yourself you’re not.
Your nose is too big.
Or your ass is too small, or your legs are too short. Unless people are pointing and staring, you’re good. We all have features we don’t like, but most of the time, they go unnoticed by others.
You’re better than everybody else.
Okay, so you’ve got an ego. That’s okay. An ego protects you from a lot of things in life. But a big, fat, inflated ego is a turn off to friends, family and lovers, so stop telling yourself you’re better and try to see what you have in common with the rest of humanity instead.
You don’t need people.
If you’ve been hurt or feel betrayed, you may feel like you’d rather just avoid the whole broken heart thing and become a hermit. After a while, though, the tub of ice cream runs out, while a good friend never will. Stop telling yourself you don’t need friends, grab a tissue, and call your mother.
You deserve the abuse.
Trust us. People who love you, don’t hurt you – at least not on purpose. You don’t deserve to be abused, either emotionally or physically. If you’re in an abusive relationship, leave now. Seriously. Grab the keys, the kids, your wallet, and go. You can figure out the rest later.