When we meet someone with whom we feel a connection, we’re willing to do whatever it takes to continue the relationship, even though it may not be practical in geographical terms. That’s often how and why we get involved in a long distance relationship.
It’s true, a long distance relationship can be more challenging. Even if the long distance relationship is perfect for you, it will still require more creativity and work than a regular relationship. Here are some ways to keep a long distance relationship thriving.
Just as you have a busy life filled with many things that don’t have to do with your long distance flame, your partner has a busy life, too. That doesn’t mean they’ll be up to no good since you won’t know the difference. It just means they lead an active life, which you should want for them if you really care about them. After all, you probably wouldn’t be interested in them as much if they were a homebody with no side interests or hobbies, right? You fell in love with a 3-dimensional person with friends and outside interests. Now that you’re in a relationship with them, don’t try to quash that side of your paramour.
Be flexible if your lover has to cancel or reschedule your telephone call or Skype session. Don’t try to fence in your long distance lover with a rigid schedule that ultimately will be impossible to keep. They don’t have 100% control over their schedule—just as you don’t over yours. Maybe their league soccer game ran late, or their boss made them stay late to finish a project. Maybe one of their friends had a tough day and needed a late night gab. Whatever the reason, just be flexible and go with the flow. They’ll appreciate your understanding and won’t get that terrible relationship-killing feeling where someone is trying to control them.